It's so difficult to be patient.

My son is asserting his independence. He wants to do EVERYTHING himself! All he needs is for me to just stand around but do nothing so that he complete anything that he wants to do himself.

You know what that amounts to? Frustration. Soar throat...because female Tarzan is in. Tell me how to be patient.

Why? Because he takes hours just to complete a simple task! Like taking out and putting on his t-shirt. Like bathing. Like combing his hair. Like unlocking and locking the gate. Like making his own bottle of milk! Yes! He makes his own milk...The scooping of milk powder, the filling of hot water (we use the dispenser)and cold water...He does them himself(I only help in the shaking part coz otherwise the milk powder does not mix well with the water.. and that's after I insisted)Try doing things for him and he would UNDO what you've done! And then do it all over again! Aaargh!!!!!! Tolong!!!! All these would be done in between his chants `Abdullah wants to do yourself' (He still hasn't got his pronoun right)

I'm wondering if I'm over-reacting. On the one hand, yes, he's progressing. My son is a 3-yr-old who's doing things for himself. Yes, I'm supposed to be happy but really, this whole thing is testing my patience. Most of the time, I don't think I did well. I think I was just too impatient. But of course, I do feel very bad because the house just turns upside down when the screamings start.

What's a good formula to be patient? I don't want to lose my child. I want to be a better parent. Being patient is not easy at all...really. But I have to be.